Dead Bedroom is self-explanatory.
However, for those new to the manosphere, ‘duty-sex’ is quite simple. This is when the woman puts-out just enough to keep you around. And by keep you around, I mean you giving her comfort, validation, attention, and buying her things. The sex she does dish-out (starfish sex) is scarce, mediocre, unenthusiastic, and later followed by more demands.
My Duty-Sex Experience
On one occasion prior to swallowing the red pill, I had duty-sex. For no apparent reason, the girl went from accepting my advances with eagerness, to rejecting them because she was, “not in the mood” or “let’s just cuddle”. But this time, she reluctantly accepted. Throughout the process her movement was frigid and her kissing was lazy. Despite the lack of enthusiasm, I didn’t let this deter me. I continued the foreplay thinking a good ol’ dicking would solve the problem. Hint: it didn’t.
It was awful.
She had the Sahara Snatch, laying back like a starfish and looked uncomfortable like she just wanted it over with. It was so sad and felt so pathetic that I just ended it. Couldn’t finish even if I wanted to because it was a such a libido kill.
I can’t believe men do that for years and actually finish the deed. If you go through with this on a regular basis, you’re a fucking loser.
No Sex = No Relationship
Let’s be clear. The only thing that separates your girl from every other girl in your life is SEX. If you are not having sex, there is no ‘relationship’. A female that you cohabitate with, that isn’t blood related to you, and don’t have sex with is a ROOMMATE. The word ,’girlfriend’, is just a euphemism for “girl that you fuck and spend intimate time with.” A wife is just a girlfriend with a contract with the state. So if you give your time, money, and energy to a girl you’re not having sex with, what does that make you? A chump. You’re being used and UOENO. Or you do and let it happen, in which case, you’re definitely a loser.
No Sex = No Attraction
Men take to give, and women give to take. Men take women’s bodies to give sperm, women give themselves to men to receive resources, commitment, and semen. When a woman loves you, she will attempt to give her greatest asset, her body. If a woman doesn’t offer herself to you, she isn’t attracted to you.
Why Men Accept It
“There are beta men out there who think that is what sex is, sadly.
That all there is to it is the woman spreading her legs and lying there motionless as he gets to insert his dick inside her dry vagina and thrust. That the fact that she did the bare minimum and spread her legs for him and allowed him to penetrate, means she wants him and is in love with him and has passion for him [and you should be grateful for such an opportunity].
‘Hey, I still had sex!’ they will say.
Yeah, eating off the Dollar Menu at Mcdonalds is still food in the technical sense, but that doesn’t mean it compares well with a steak dinner at a 5 star restaurant.” – /u/TheDonald2k16 (here)
Why Women Do it
You began a pattern of unattractive behavior, which turned her off. Then you continued investing in her despite the fact you’re not receiving anything in return, even open disgust and mistreatment. You don’t have any self-respect. If you don’t respect yourself, she won’t respect you either.
She likes when you pay the rent/mortgage. She likes when you drive her around. She likes when you buy her gifts. She likes that you listen to her problems. But she isn’t attracted to you. She wants to retain your provisioning, commitment, and emotional comfort, but doesn’t want to give up the pussy. You don’t induce tingles, but you’re useful.
Sometimes she just wants to be able to say she isn’t single to her girlfriends.
What Not To Do
First off, let me tell what NOT to do. DO NOT ask for sex or complain about the lack of it. That will surely dry up every vagina in a 2 mile radius. Remember, you cannot negotiate desire. That includes the pathetic, “Chore Play”.
One more thing: The “Low Libido” excuse is bullshit. She doesn’t have ‘low libido’, it’s not that she has lost interest in sex altogether. She just doesn’t want to have sex with YOU. Same goes for guys. Put a young PYT with big tits in front of a ‘low libido’ man, boners come back. Put a ripped stud in front of a ‘low libido’ woman, her panties get wet again.
Q: So what can you do?
Most likely the relationship isn’t salvageable, just end it. Clean break. Don’t wear a stupid toupee, just shave it off. Stop investing money in a company that will never see the dawn of profit and cut your losses. Don’t be a slave. I guarantee you that sex isn’t the only issue in your relationship. When a woman is no longer attracted to you, yet decides to stay, she acts out in other ways and is usually unpleasant. Ain’t nobody got time for that. A man’s most powerful tool is the ability to walk away. USE IT.
Q: So you’re stubborn and won’t leave, but want some practical advice?
Alright, but you’re not going to like it. Part of the blue pill conditioning is that you should deflect blame to an outside source and place the solution in the hands of women and Daddy Government. But you’re here, now. You’ve decided to take the red pill. Now you can no longer point the finger to someone else by default, you must look within and perform some self-reflection and solve the problem alone. Ask yourself, “what have I been doing wrong that would be considered unattractive.”
- Are you fat or getting fat? ==> Stop being fat, and start liftin’. No excuses.
- Do you always complain about your problems? ==> Stop doing that. She cannot, and won’t be your rock. The tingles and sympathy are mutually exclusive (/u/RU_Crazy). She depends on you for emotional stability. Complaining shows you feel you have no power over your life and that makes her nervous. Lack of power = not sexy.
- Are finances not in order? Lost your job? ==> Buddy, you got bigger problems than pussy. Fix that.
Are you getting the picture now? Or do I have to hold your smooth baby bitch hands that don’t lift?
Gentleman, if you really want to know how it looks when you accept this deal of settling for duty-sex crumbs, watch this disturbing scene from the foreign B-movie, “Audition” (only 2 mins from the starting point, you can ditch the rest). I’ll let you draw the analogy yourself. Enjoy.
Sidenote: It doesn’t show in the clip, but in the movie, the captive man says “thank you” after eating.